Happiness is a problem

Happiness is a serious problem. We don't realise that life itself is a form of suffering. The rich suffer from his richness, poor from his poverty, people who pursue worldly pleasure suffer because of their worldly pleasures. This doesn't mean all suffering is the same. Some suffering is more painful than others. But we all suffer.

Happiness is not a solvable equation. Dissatisfaction and unease are an inherent part of human nature . We suffer for the simple reason that suffering is biologically useful. It is meant for a massive change. We are wired to become dissatisfied with whatever we have.

Pain in all forms, is our body's most effective means of  taking action. Pain is what teaches us what to pay attention to when you are careless. It shows us what is good for us and what is bad for us. It helps to understand our limits. It's not always beneficial to avoid pain and seek pleasure. But pain is not only physical, but we humans experience psychological pain as well. Psychological pain is an indication that something is out of balance. And it is not necessarily always bad like physical pain. In some cases experiencing psychological and emotional pain can be healthy. Emotional pain of failure teaches us how to avoid making the same mistake in future.

In life problems don't end. Problems don't go away, they just improve. So don't hope for a life without problems. Instead hope for a life full of good problems.

Solving problems

Happiness comes from solving problems. Problems are constant in life. And they don't get away, they just get exchanged or upgraded as mentioned above. Happiness comes from solving problems. The solution is “solving” not running away from problems. If you have problems that you can't solve you will make yourself miserable. Solution is solving problems ,not not having problems or avoiding them. Happiness therefore is a byproduct of action or form of action not something that is passively bestowed upon you  Not something you magically discover or read an article like this and you're done. It is a constant work in progress. So the formula is to solve problems and be happy.

Two things  not to do

Victim mentality: some choose to blame others for their problems. Instead of solving them they simply believe there is nothing they can do about it.

Denial : some people just go in denial mode that their problem doesn't exist. And because they reject reality they themselves get distracted by reality. This may make them feel good in short term but it leads to misery.

But why do people do this? Simply because it makes them feel good and is easy. Whereas solving problems is hard and feels bad.

Emotions

Emotions evolved for one specific reason to help us live. They are feedback mechanism telling us something is right or wrong for us. Negative emotions are call to action. Emotions are part of life but not the entire Iife . Just because something feels good doesn't mean it is good or something feels bad it is bad. Emotions are just suggestions that our neurobiology gives us, not an order. So shouldn't always rely on emotions and in fact question them.

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WHY SHOULD'NT TRUST YOUR EMOTIONS

Attack

Everyone wants to enjoy what feels good, live an easy life everybody wants. But we never ask what pain do we want in life? What are we willing to give up everything for? Whether you are in the worst conditions, suffering from anxiety, depression, loneliness the solution lies in the acceptance. Accept the way it is . 

“You get up”

“You don't want to Run You Go Run”

“You Don't Wanna Go Swim You Go Swim” 

“You Don't Wanna Make Your Bed You Make Your Bed”

“Do Something that sucks Every Single Day Of Your Life” 

“That Is How YOU GROW”___David Goggins